I think that's going to come down to a talk between you and her as to what she wants, vs what you want. And if they don't line up, then you decide what you can give up, she decides what she can give up, and as soon as you hit a NO, there's the answer. But if you never find that no, then you'll both have your boundaries established. In other words, the answer to your question to me, can really only be found in your answers to each other.